A woman with baggage is worse than a man with baggage?

Alo everyone!!!!!! So I came across this love column on the Punch website. The guy was seeking advice on him marrying an older widow. What gingered me most was the comments that followed. It was a mixture of funny and just wrong (emphasizing how our culture belittles women).  I want to know what you guys think of the whole thing but more importantly, do you think the advice will be different if the lady was older but the guy was the one who lost his spouse and had 2 kids.

Question:
"There is this lady I want to marry. She is 2 years older than me: she is 36, while I am 34. She lost her husband some years back and she has two children. I love her dearly but I don’t know what to do."

Adviser's answer:
"No big deal, you can go ahead to propose to her but you need to know how to convince your parents/relatives on why you are marrying a widow with two children when you are not a father yet. Maybe, you both should keep the age stuff to yourselves and think of how to make them accept. If you are comfortable with her past and her kids, go ahead, at least her former marital experience should be able to guide her in your home."


Some comments: 

• Hope the so called love is not because the lady has property? But if it is genuine love you can move forward. 
  
• Cos u are 34, you think u cannot get a younger lady to marry?, something is surely wrong with you. You do not love her, what you are feeling is infatuation, not love. Boy, wake up from ur slumber, or has she prepared vegetable for you? Do u contribute to the death of her husband? Leave her alone, and let somebody in her husband family take her over. you want to use ur first savings in your life to take care of another mans children.Think very well and stop tormenting the poor woman. 
• For you to prepare yourself well you need to cover some grounds. 1st, let her know how you feel. Based on her response you will know whether to move on or not. If she’s receptive then both of you need to be real and discuss the possible hurdles ahead. You stand a good chance with a widow if she chooses to be with you same as you would with a single girl. It’s how both partners handle the situation that matters most. 
  
• Guy forget that lady look for a new lady and marry remember that she will like to be in command after all she has gotten everything in marital life my broda wise and look for a single woman and marry 
  
• pls fined out the circomstance tha lead to the dead of her late husband it very important,befour you go in there
• IF YOU LOVE YOUR LIFE FORGET ABOUT THIS LADY!!!!! READ IT IN CAPITAL LETTERS 
• re examine your head very well before going into the marriage. I hope it is not because she is probably picking ur bills now that is why u want to marry her. Yeye lazy man, wey dey hide him laziness inside love. Go and work to earn a living for yourself and build a happy home with a girl you can manage. 
•  WOULD SAY ITS OKAY, IF U TRULY LUV HER. BUT REMEMBER THAT A MAN WHO MARRY A WIDOW WITH TWO KIDS, MARRY THREE THEIVES. SO DO NOT BE CARRIED AWAYS N BE SURE OF YOUR FEELINGS AND WANT U WANT FROM D MARRIAGE. 
• ay, so because she is a widow at 36 she does not deserve to be loved and to remarry. if it were your sister or daugther you would give this advise. please keep your wicked and insensitive advise to yourself. when they carry the corpse of an outsider it seems like it is mere wood but the family member wail because they know a loved one is lost. think before you write please 
• I bet u, u will regret ur action later. Evrytin may seems okay but u suldn’t do dis. Remember she has already had 2 kids. U will b fed up taking care of dis kids later on. 
•  pity you!!!. It is always sweet at this stage, but i bet you, you will regret it later on. Are there no girls in nigeria again? 
• Before you go into this have it in mind that you need to love the widow and the kids,to me i dont see anything bad in that but the important thing is are you comfortable with her and her kids?mind you she need alot of care now.