Apologies + pregnancy + 419 + housekeeping

Ok so im pregnant.........will get to that later on. Again, this is going to be a long post :) but keep reading, you may find what you like.

Apologies
Sorry, Pele, ndo!!!! I know ive been MIA for a while but no be my fault. I've been extremely busy, traveling and dealing with a lot of people....wooo fedex should employ me for logistics management cos when you can safely deal with a rowdy, demanding 9ja bunch, u don try abeg. Needless to say im tired but we thank God o. I can't complain too much because I am busy due to answered prayers. When they say God's time is ALWAYS on time and that "For the vision [is] yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry." I am a living testimony. So my brothers and sisters, the GOD that buttered my bread shall put sugar in your tea o!!!!! Keep the faith


Pregnancy
I am not pregnant jo............*NTA 2, chanel 5, ela oju kan* lol Ok so I promised this post a while ago so I may still just ramble on but no wahala. Ok so let me get the Christian perspective out of the way. As some of you have already said: our body is the temple of God so no kokolization before marriage. However, as with many issues, I don't think cause you got pregnant before marriage you will go to hell or cause you didnt you will go to heaven. Now I don't personally know a lot of people that have gotten pregnant before marriage but I have heard stories of when all ended well despite the bele on wedding day. That being said, there are a few groups of people that pre-wedding pregnancy really doesn't sit well for me. Now its not my place to judge put I can say my opinion jare.


1. Teen/young mothers: I am a strong watcher of 16 and pregnant. For these ladies, I don't even think getting married would help their kids have a more stable home cos everything was messed up from the dating start. Most got pregnant by mistake after few months of dating, having sex kinda sorta out of peer pressure, without a care in the world. A kid can't raise a kid. Forget all the welfare something sef, these young parents, by having these kids so young (even with family support), don't give their children the chance to be very useful to society...the statistics are against them and then it starts a cycle, coupled with poverty and all, that becomes difficult for generations to break. That's just a bit selfish to me. However, when I think of 9ja, once you get over the initial stigma part, with all the family and househelps we have around, you may still be able to get you act together so as to give your child a better future.......THIS IS NOT ADVOCATING FOR 9JA TEENS TO GO GET PREGNANT BIKO.


2. Celebrities: Now it is done here in the US too but I will focus more on the 9ja ones because that is what prompted this post. As a PHD holder in nollywood affairs and PHD candidate for 9ja celeb news, it has come to my notice that a lot of them seem to be getting pregnant before they get married. Now it really isn't our business.....i dont even think its something you can say oh young girls and boys look up to you so its bad. What worries me more is that the rumors seem to be that the pregnancy prompted the wedding or the baby daddy is unknown.....none of which is best for the child (ofcourse there are exceptions with strong single mothers and daddys holding it down and pregnancy induced marriages that end well). Just to clarify, if you are getting married and you get pregnant before wedding day, dats one thing. but if you weren't really on the marriage path and just to save face you get married cos of the the pregnancy, yawa fit gas (this is what I mean by pregnancy induced wedding...hope the difference between the 2 is clear ppl). A chilling case in point: Uche Iwuji. Now if you dont really watch 9ja films you may not know here because she isn't a consistent face in movies. However, you may have come across her interview on linda ikeji's blog. The gist of the thing was that she had a miscarriage which is sad but the chilling part was that the baby daddy seemed nothing more than friends with benefits and she was ok with that. Again, not a good something for the child.


Solutions to out of wedlock pregnancy: I know there are churches that do pregnancy test before allowing you to wed in the church and some schools sef that do pregnancy test before allowing you to graduate. Ermm all that is a but extra too me now. Ok so if they are pregnant and you won't allow them to wed, shey dey should go and abort it (another sin) or live unmarried and keep having kids (which is also not Biblically ok). I get the point that maybe its to discourage sex before marriage but as sisi Mena pointed out, children are gifts from God. Shey dey will start givin breath analyzer test on sunday morning before service to see if you drank alcohol or something cos some ppl head to church from d club. While I get trying to uphold the doctrines of the faith, the approach is a bit extra for me jo


Exceptions to the rule: I know the Bible doesn't advocate sex before marriage and really holds matrimony as sacred. However, I don't believe that marriage is a fix for all problems.....maybe slightly feeling that marriage may not be all that it is cracked up to be. And then I read a passage that said that said something like: there will be a time when people will be decieved that marriage isn't all that and they can do without it. I really can't remember the passage but it was as if God was saying, "Olori, you better be thinking of the marriage because it is for you and all my children. don't be deceived". God definitely heard my mums prayers cos she cant wait to plan wedding!  That being said, if you wait till you get married to have sex or have kids, that doesn't mean the marriage will be wonderful or your kids will turn out better than the teenage, single mums kids. People like Oprah and Brad and Angelina are lovers that live together and have kids and all seems well. Whereas there are Christian homes where the rules were followed and daddy is molesting daughter and mother cant speak out.


Question: in the last post someone said she did her legal/court wedding 6 months back but was 2 months pregnant on the wedding day so does that count as out of wedlock pregnancy? 


Answer: I dont know :) because I am tired but off the top of my tired head, I will say it depends so thats a yes and no. I will think about it and explain better when I return for the second post. That being said, this post may not really apply to you cos you don't seem to fall in the pregnancy induced marriage category....see definition above :)................ppl what do you think, does she qualify as out of wedlock pregnancy?


Anyway, the floor is now open to you guys, feel free to agree, disagree, expantiate and discuss.


P.S: I really do have a 419 story and I need to shout out to some bloggers (prizm and hazel and Myne: wetin sick you now?) and then those of you have been commenting and stopping by despite my absence (A very big thank you!!!) but tire hook me for neck like bow tie so later on today or tomorrow, I shall gist you dat one

Random ramblings of the sleep deprived

ok well i was determined by 1am when I went to bed but now it is 8.17 so I guess I gave up at about 5/6am and I am hoping to go all the way till 11pm so as not to mess up my sleep schedule.....but i think ill crash sometime before then. Anyway, to the random ramblings:

P.S: long post but keep reading, u fit find something wey u like :)

• The number one reason why I am trying to stay up, atleast for the next 4 hours is because Arsenal is playing Aston Villa at 10/11am. Now I know the haters are yabbing us saying another trophyless season plus the defeat last week was just irritating. that being said, as long as we close out the season with a win over aston villa and a few goals from van persie and walcott and maybe nasri, I am good...HATERS CAN KEEP ON HATING :) Now if Fabregas wants to leave abeg he should leave cos his performance and demeanor on the field has not be gingering me. He can go and warm bench in barca...nonsense and ingredients. Vermaleen can like to come back from his injury abeg (i hear he may play today....he can like to give us welcome goal like Ramsey did). Walcott better fully live up to the hype or cos this hot today and cold tomorrow gats to stop. Wenger....we need a trophy...nuff said on dat one
• Still on sports, this one is an anger ive been carrying for a while. one of my higlights for the summer is to watch the lakers play in the playoffs and now they are out. Kobe aka ko boy aka kokoma....i cant believe u let me down. but our love is strong so next season. plus lamar or wareva dey call u if khloe and being on the numerous kardashian shows is distracting u, we may need to be talking divorce now..jk..u r busy doing fragrance and clothing line wen d team is losing to one yeye team hiss
• ok so i spent most of this night/morning on nairaland. Thank God for no nepa taking light here o. if i was in 9ja, mosquito would have used me to do isegwari. Anyway, I am typically interested in doing small businesses (salon, grocery, drycleaning, cybercafe.....dat kain thing.....not the next facebook or anything) in Nigeria so I am always looking at what people have to say on those issues: start-up costs, operating costs, challenges etc (pls feel to contribute ur knowledge on such topics abeg). I have to say the threads are comical with 9ja ppl trying to turn everything to business. any small thing u talk dey will say i hve business idea and need partner so email me or call me. the frequency at which i see such posts makes me a tad bit suspicious of the people and i question if they really have any useful info. but then i have to give huge kudos to those who give free info on there for anything.....u really learn alot...info and knowledge is power o. then ofcourse there are the ppl calling out other ppl for being 419 nd then they have their back and forth and other ppl (u know as we dey do aproko) will now join and be insulting or calling out the supposed 419er. i find it interesting that when someone does business with someone on the thread and it goes bad, they will come and shout....which i clearly understand. afterall u no come lagos or obodoyibo come count bridge. however, if and when the business deals go well, we never hear d testimony on the thread. however, someone started a thread for people to give testimony of whatever good experience they had doing business with nairalanders. It is quite encouraging to see standup 9ja ppl because all we hear about is the 419 ppl. anyway the interesting business idea that seems to be making the rounds is haulage business. apparently u buy truck or tipper (prices range from N2.5m - N5m and above from what i gather) and can give some ppl to manage and they will give u monthly returns of N350K - N550K.....so u can imagine how hot cake it is on the site. however, as they say if something looks too good to be true, it actually is. i think the ppl asking to manage it maybe legit, where i think the problem comes in is in the stated monthly return....na there story go start.
• oh then i watched pastor sam adeyemi of daystar online .....sexuality and the mind is the title of the message. then i saw joel osteen on tv.....something about if God puts in a word for u, no body can put sand sand in your garri. put in the 9ja songway, when Jesus say yes, nobody can say no....up up Jesus, down down satan...everybody. strongly feeling both messages......i no go church today.
• Blogger oooooo, if not for d fact that today is sunday, u would have gotten some pieces of my royal mind, u better bring back my ppls comments o. rubbish and nonsense. u said u will restore the things soon but apparently u ppl at google are also on African timing.....let me hear any of u oyibo ppl say dat we dnt have concept of time again...anofia
• topic on my mind: out of wedlock pregnancies. now i dnt even know if its right to ask is it right or wrong because there maybe many nuances. i know where the Christian stand is on the issue but i guess its more complicated. wo i will tackle the issue when im more coherent....u can sha drop ur thots now or wait till then
• sorry that i havenet replied to previous comments. combination of busy schedule, laziness, mood swings and blogger having some scon scon. will get to it ASAP.
• oh ive been cooking like crazy and oh i eat the meat and other orisirisi in my soup and stew before it is ready. den i continue to finish d meat and orisirisi even after food is done....leaving soup and stew behind. oh den when i say im cooking dey will ask me if im getting fat......e mi ke!!!!! fat isnt in my dictionary....im only getting fully endowed. 
• Now I leave u with the song im currently feeling since i cant think of anything else to write....lol...thanks for tolerating and obliging the rant.....it is now 8.56am

25 questions

Borrowed from Myne :)


 1.  Do you have any pets?


Tufiakwa!!! And for those who have, please keep it on a leash in ur house biko.


2.  Name 3 things that are physically close to you?


Phone, laptop and cup or shilled water


3. What's the weather like right now?


Can't be bothered to go outside but it looks hot even tho inside feels cold, wo i dnt know


4. Do you drive? If so have you crashed?


I can drive small and so far I haven't crashed....thank God but ive been involved in one sha. dats d day i knew i was an area girl...chei smh


5. What time did you wake up this morning?


7am ish by one yeye call from 9ja...hisss den i re-awoke by like 10am or 11am


6. When was the last time you showered?


Few hours ago


7.  What was the last movie you saw?


Fifa agent (Nollywoodlove) and georgia rule on lifetime i think


8. What does your last message say?


Dats not good o


9. What's your ring tone?


Default nokia ringtone.......tirinrinrin tirinririn tirinrin....or something like dat


10. Have you ever been to a different country?

Yelse


11.   Do you like sushi?


Anything Asian (except like Indian, Pakistani or Afghan) I dont chop


12.Where do you buy your groceries ?


Harris Teeter and online for d african stuffs (by the way im still looking for good online places....one place did me 419 before)


13. Have you ever taken medication to help you sleep faster


Nope......if it start, addiction no ni but God has been faithful.....huge improvement from before


14. How many siblings do you have?


2 or 3.....dnt ask me :)


15. Do you have a desktop computer or a laptop


Laptop......trying to get a new one. any suggestions will be deeply appreciated :)


16. How old will you be turning on your next birthday?


Talk to d hand but not d face....85!!!


17. Do you wear contacts or glasses


 I get eye for back of head sef....no seeing aid needed :)


18. Do you color your hair


No


19. Tell me something you are planning to do today?


Attempt to sew and watch more 9ja films and maybe get some "real" work in too sha and oh catch love and hip hop and mob wives and maybe bethany but i doubt d bethany one jo


20. When was the last time you cried


Not too sure 


21. Whats your perfect pizza topping


I dont eat pizza....yes call me weird


22. Do you prefer hamburgers or cheeseburgers?


None but hamburgers if need be


23. Have you ever had an all-nighter


Try not to.....oh maybe when im travelling back to 9ja...im always packing late cos im buying stuff for half of lagos


24. Whats your eye-color


Black or brown...i neva check


25. Can you taste the difference between Pepsi and Coke?


Surely and everly......pepsi tastes like watered down coke......and dats not necessarily a bad thing

UPDATE: Osama bin Laden has been killed

UPDATE: ok so according to CNN, Osama has been killed o. they said he was killed by the US in his/a mansion in Islamabad. I thought he was in Afghanistan but apparently he has been hiding in Pakistan in "plain sight" so they are saying there may be more quanta between US and Pakistan. I hope this is not another excuse for war o biko. And what will happen to Al Queda worldwide? I'm guessing they will vex. Someone said he will send a video tomorrow morning and say he is alive. Well when Obama announces i will be back. they are already "celebrating" outside the white house.

UPDATE 2: ok so obama has given his speech o. he has confirmed that true true osama has been killed o. i am by far not an obama fan but the speech was short and to the point. apparently, they had gotten the tip on him last august and last week they felt good enough to go ahead with an attack and obama gave the go ahead and they killed him. A small team of american intelligence officials and they got support from the Pakistani government and no civilian was killed. He was killed in Abbotabad and not Islamabad.

****All this is well and good o but my fear is the Al Queda retaliation. Thousands of parents and families are coming in over the next 2 weeks for graduation and stuff. people are going home outside the US so all this is scary/confusing to me. and these americans don't waste time o. they have already gathered at the white house and are partying it up. Apparently there was a "dead or alive" order signed by Bush on his head. NOTE TO KATE: u see when u steal my future husband, you can't enjoy the media spot light for too long.

Osama don kpai!!!

According to yahoo news the world most wanted man is dead. that US has the body and Obama will announce that very soon (sunday nite....U.S time). is it true or na rumor cos no offence to the US but this is unbelievable. how did he die? by himself or did they kill him?

My first blog award!!!!!!!!

Given to me by the lovely wealthy blogger but I had forgotten about it o chei. Anyway the rules of the award are:

Part 1: 7 facts about me

• I am a crazy Arsenal fan so needless to say I am so glad WE BEAT MAN U TODAY. Chelsea fans you can thank us lara
• I am not too crazy about english gospel music. I prefer the ones in 9ja languages, especially those ibo ones that they used olden days voice enhancer/auto tune to do...PRINCESS NJIDEKE OKEKE AND HUSBAND
• I hate working out but I need to get on that treadmill ASAP
• I hate all sorts of animals........dogs aren't my best friends and cats aren't cute. infact cats sef are winchi winchi
• When I am not watching 9ja films, I am watching: teen mom, 16 & pregnant, law & order: SVU, mob wives, the game (this season was too mature jo..hiss), say yes to the dress, real housewives of atlanta and OC (the rest are too annoying), love and hip hop....thats all for now
• I hate making my hair. I can't sit down for anything longer than relaxer and sew-in weave
• I cook and clean to de-stress (about to add sewing to that)

Part 2: Pass the award to 15 other blogs and notify them....this one go hard small but lemme try. 

Surprise

Prism.......this is just bribe for you to do that sewing post :)

Secret lilies

Nike royals

MenaUkudo......miguor

omalicha

Myne

coy-intovert

9jafoodie......a taste is worth a million words

Vyvyka

Yeoal

deolascope

Mr Tee

Nikkisho

Chizy Spyware

honorary mention: GEJ.....when he visits my blog

Prayer for the month of May: Faith

"Behold, he that keepeth Israel shall neither slumber nor sleep." Psalm 121: 4
"For the vision [is] yet for an appointed time, but at the end it shall speak, and not lie: though it tarry, wait for it; because it will surely come, it will not tarry." Habakkuk 2 : 3


***In the mighty name of Jesus, the strength and faith that we need to keep on keeping on, that we need to remain steadfast till out moment of breakthrough, that we need to be patient so that our blessings shall not pass us by, father provide for us in abundance in Jesus name. Amen